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Thursday, August 24th, 2006

Subject:New State ( Ca) and Federal Law effective 9/1/06
Posted by:mspeach.
Time:5:52 pm.
First let me say that if this post is inappropriate for this community I apologize and if you have knowledge of or if there is a community to where it might be more appropriate and delete this post.  

Also, I fully realize that I am not a good writer, so for those of you out there who would like to tell me that, thanks, I already know.  I'm working on it.

Today I was contacted by the payroll department of my son's fathers place of employment to tell me there was a new law going into effect on 9/1/06, and that my child support payments that are garnished from his wages ( voluntarily - his idea so that I would never have to rely on him remembering his payment.) would now be going to the State of California's Department of Child Support Services Special Disbursements Unit where they would then disburse this to me.  

Not really a big deal, but this will slow down me receiving  (and anyone else currently recieiving thier child support from wage garnishments) by days up to weeks.  To further complicate matters, I called the special disbursements unit, and they had NO information on me ( where to send the money) tho they had my sons father in the database.  I literally spent phoen hours on the phone with them, to get the correct information in thier system, which was incrediably complicated by the fact that they had no way of verifying who I was, or if the information I was providing was correct.  

I know there are many parents out there who very much rely on receiving this money in a timely fashion.  To not receive it when expected, or with delays could be financially disasterous to thier families and impact heavily the lives of the very children this program was intended to protect and provide for.  

If you know of anyone who recieves thier child support thru a wage garnishment, please inform them of this new law. And encourage them to contact the special disbursements unit to verify they have the correct information for getting this money to them as timely as possible.  

 I consider myself well educated on new laws, and read the news every day, and yet I was not aware of this new law or program going into effect, and I can very much imagine this is true for many other parents out there struggling to provide for thier children.

Here is the link for the special disbursements unit - tho there is PITIFULLY little information on it about this program, its implementation or resources to help out those it was intended to help out.

http://www.childsup.cahwnet.gov/sdu/

If there is anyone out there more familar with this program I hope they are moved to post what they know.  In this case, the more you know, the better.



X posted to SFBayArea
But please feel free to add to other communities you think might be approproiate.
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Monday, March 14th, 2005

Subject:just me
Posted by:evelnnsmom.
Time:7:31 pm.
well this is my first time posting in this group though i joined a while ago been so busy with school and my volunteer job(trying to get off welfare)
so anyways about me ... my name is cathrine or cat for short. i'm 25 years old. my daughter is evelynn and is 10 months old her b-day is may fourth. i used to have a lot of hobbies but most of them are not child friendly so i gave them up for the time being but here they are anyways, candle making(too hot) making dream catchers(little pieces, and slightly expensive) reading(i still do that) walking(that too) i love movies especially sappy love stories.
i also just moved into a new apartment thank goodness my old one was just a rotten part of town...i'm not quite sure if there's anything else anyone wants to know but feel free to ask i'll answer as soon as i can since i have no computer at home right now...but soon...things are finally looking up in my life even though i do feel stressed and overwhelmed a lot of the time
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Tuesday, March 8th, 2005

Subject:Hello :-)
Posted by:babsmitty.
Time:4:46 pm.
Mood: hopeful.
I joined your little community today, so I figure introductions are in order. :)

I am a 26 year old single mother with three kids; Jordan, 8 in one week; Vivian and Brooke 6. Jordan is in second grade and the twins are in first grade.

I had Jordan when I was a senior in high school. The twins I had the following summer. Their father and I split up just before the twins turned a year old. About 6 months later I started dating Dan, who I have now dated for six years.

I guess there isn't a whole lot else to know about me... I have always wanted to communicate with people in similar situations.... and now to be of help to younger girls in situations similar to the ones I was in when I was younger. I remember feeling so isolated and lonely at 18 and pregnant... then when I was 20 and had three kids and was alone.... I always wished for someone who I could talk to then and sometimes I still wish for that support! I have wonderful kids and a wonderful man in my life and things are starting to stabilize, but I'm forever a single mother... I'm sure many of you can relate to the feelings I am talking about :)

Anyway, that's me in a nutshell, I suppose. I look forward to getting to know you all! :)
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Wednesday, February 16th, 2005

Subject:My Favorite Time of Day...
Posted by:lil_blue_monkey.
Time:9:39 am.
Mood: loved.
As I'm sure it is for most newly single parents, Valentines Day was extremly hard on me - making Valentines for my mom's 4th graders, mailing Valentines with my daughter's picture to friends and family, listening to friends and classmates talk about their plans. I mean, 12 months ago, I was married, a step-mom, and expecting my first child! And now? All I've got left is this precious little girl who can always make me smile. So I want to share what my favorite time of day is, since it makes me forget all about not having those things:

My favorite time of day is when I get my daugther up in the morning.
I flip on the lights in her room and she starts looking around, smiling, knowing that I'm coming to get her up! And when she sees me? Well, she reaches for me and grins this huge ear to ear grin! Then I pick her up. She's only 5 months old, but boy can she give the best hugs! She puts her little arms around my neck and holds on as tight as she can, then burries her little head into my shoulder. It makes me feel so loved!

But it doesn't stop there! After we get up, I feed her breakfast - oatmeal and pears with a bottle chaser. When I give her the bottle, she snuggles in to me so we're belly to belly. She puts one little arm around my side and the other holds the hand that is holding the bottle. And she just looks up at me, as if she's saying, "Mommy, you're everything to me".

That is my favorite time of day.

cross-posted in a couple places
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Tuesday, February 15th, 2005

Posted by:luv_child69.
Time:4:25 pm.

I dont know if this is allowed or not I'm sorry if it isn't and you can delet this.

I'm a 19 year old single mother of a toddler and I just created a new community today for all those Strong Single Mommies out there. My situation and other's has inspired me to create this community, I'm hoping that single mothers can get together and help support each other and also  just listen and maybe give some advice, and all in all just have someone they can talk to.

I know being a single mother isn't as hard as some say but it's also not all that easy either. So i hope that soon the community will be filled with all the independent women out there supporting each other, so please join me at

 

strongsinglemom
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Thursday, December 30th, 2004

Subject:Food!
Posted by:a_rowan_dryad.
Time:7:42 pm.
Aidan is just a hair over 5 months old (Dec 20) and for the last few days has suddenly stopped sleeping through the night (he's been sleeping through the night since he was about 8 weeks old). Seeing as all he wants is to nurse for about 10 mins and doesn't even need a diaper change my mother suggested that he wasn't getting enough breast milk to sleep through anymore. So this evening I looked it up and found out that among other items, applesauce is ok for babies his age. I put a tiny bit in his bowl and WOW! It took him a few moments to get the hang of the spoon but after only a couple bites he opened his mouth wide each time the spoon came at him. He barely dribbled any back out - it was so cute! He ate somewhere between 1 and 2 tablespoons and then nursed for about 5 mins and promptly fell asleep. It's 7:40pm right now and he has been down since 6pm. I know that going to bed so early means he won't sleep the night through (at least I don't think so) but it's nice to have so many evening hours to catch up on laundry and other house chores!
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Wednesday, December 8th, 2004

Subject:violent tendencies
Posted by:milf0113.
Time:4:45 pm.
Ok, so I'm asking for everyones help right now.

My son is 3 1/2, and lately he has been acting violently towards my animals. Just today he took a plastic golf club and hit my lab, Sam, with it, as well as pulled his ears. I don't understand why he is doing these things, and I don't know what to do to stop him. He has been bit several times by my littler dog because he was being mean to her. I am afraid that he is going to hurt Sam as well, and that Sam will then in turn bite him. I wouldn't blame Sam for biting him, because that is really the only defense a dog has. I do worry, though, that Sam will hurt him. He's a big dog, and could do a lot of damage. Sam has been an extremely patient dog considering the circumstances. Justin has sat on him, stepped on him, and other stuff. I've punished Justin for it every time, but I just can't seem to get through to him. He's mean to my cats too. He throws stuff at them, and picks them up when they don't want to be picked up. They haven't bit him yet, but I know it's just a matter of time before they do. If anyone has any suggestions please tell me. I'm at a loss as to what to do now, and I really don't want to have to find new homes for my pets because my son is violent, but I really don't want to subject them to anymore pain. PLEASE help!

Cross posted in singlemoms, as well as singleparents.
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Friday, October 29th, 2004

Subject:Baby Colds..........
Posted by:tamm.
Time:11:41 am.
Mood: sick.
My One Year Old just got a bad bad cold.
She had her one year shots on Tuesday of this week. Now she is all runny nose, coughing, sneezing, all the nasty's.
Her doctor told me to give her Motrin for the shots for fever and such(this was before she got sick). Then later that night she started the cold and I was told to give her benadryl for the runny nose and it would dry it up.
Well she has been doing that since Tuesday night plus the Motrin for her shots and such. Now she is not getting any better and she is getting more miserable and not sleeping at all. I tried a humidifire(sp?) and that just made all of us worse.
I don't know if anyone out there reccomends anything better or what is your experience with this??
I am open to all suggestions and now me and my mother have it to. I am willing to do anything to get rid of this cold in all of us.

Thanks In Advance
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Thursday, October 21st, 2004

Subject:Party Ideas??
Posted by:tamm.
Time:1:22 pm.
Mood: curious.
Sunday is my daughter's first birthday and I am trying to figure out some things to do.
I have the invitations in the mail and the cake ordered, decorations are going to be all set up the night before.
I was looking for some ideas as to what to do for the guests.
I was thinking a little gift bag for the kids with like a little toy and maybe some candy or something??
I don't know if anyone out there has any ideas or what did you do for your baby's first birthday?
This is all very new to me and being a single stay at home mom my budget is very tight.
Any ideas would be loved!!
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Thursday, October 7th, 2004

Subject:paternity test
Posted by:milf0113.
Time:10:49 pm.
We finally got the results back from the paternity test. Although they only confirmed what I already knew. Before we got the results back though, I decided a lot of things, that needed to be decided. The night before we got the results I told Dan that I didn't want his money. I don't want to owe him anything. I certainly don't want to owe him my child. The last time that Dan came to visit Hope he brought his fiance. That really didn't irritate me, because I don't care who he's with, and she's an okay person. But then I heard someone say something about a step-mom. That pissed me off. No One has the right to call themselves Hope's mother but me. Besides the fact that they aren't even married yet. I talked to my mom about it, and she basically told me to grow up. I wanted his money, but I didn't want him to have anything to do with Hope. Which isn't true. I just think my mom doesn't understand. I don't care if Dan wants to see Hope, but he really hurt me. And it really isn't that I still want to be with him, because I don't, but it takes awhile to get over being angry. What I don't want is someone else trying to parent my child. My mom said that his fiance was going to be married to Hope's father and that she would in fact be Hope's step-mother, and that I couldn't have it both ways. So, if I can't have it both ways then I'm going to have it the way I've wanted to have it from the beginning. I haven't wanted Dan's money. And I don't even care if he's in her life. He seems really reluctant to be anyway. So, if he doesn't want to be, then I'm not going to force him. My mom doesn't know yet that I told him I didn't want his money, and I'm not really sure how I'm going to tell her. My parents have been helping me financially, and I know she's going to say something about that. Cause that's just how she is. I guess we'll just wait and see.
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Sunday, September 26th, 2004

Subject:we both need SLEEP.. but not gettin it!
Posted by:harvey501.
Time:10:24 pm.
Mood: distressed.
HELP... my son is 10 months. he wont go to sleep sooner than 1am. i keep trying to keep him on a schedule. it was working he was in bed by 9pm before. every night and then in one day it switched and now its 1am hes really grumpy, fussy, screamin, i cant handle it anymore. ive tried for a week to get him to his old shedule. i think he may be teething. but its never been this bad.. any tricks of the trade you can share with me?

X-posted:singlemomship_mamadark_parentspunkymoms
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Saturday, September 25th, 2004

Subject:THINGS TO KNOW
Posted by:harvey501.
Time:8:47 pm.
1. Budweiser beer conditions the hair

2. Pam cooking spray will dry finger nail polish

3. Cool whip will condition your hair in 15 minutes

4. Mayonnaise will KILL LICE, it will also condition your hair
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Subject:did you know..
Posted by:harvey501.
Time:2:30 pm.
Mood:creative.
if you mix corn startch, water and food coloring and put it in pray bottles you have liquid chalk? or put it in a pallet with the little deviders. and hand your kid a paint brush.. and its paintable chalk.. its also a lot cheaper than the stuff you find inthe stores! and shh.. its the same thign!

x-posted: singlemoms
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Subject:intro
Posted by:milf0113.
Time:2:38 pm.
I joined this community a while back, and haven't really written anything. I think I was apprehensive about delving into the complication that is my life. After reading the supportive comments made by everyone, I think I finally have the courage.

When I was 18 I got really rebellious, and decided that I didn't need my parents anymore, and in a way, ran away from home. It was kind of a complicated situation. My parents told me that the next time I stayed out all night without calling, I was going to have to leave. So, I stayed out all night, and then the next morning when I went home, my dad handed me a suitcase and told me I had to move out. Of course all of this was for some guy. Typical. That was a Sunday. That night I got pregnant. Go figure. I know that was when I got pregnant because that was the only time I had sex during that time frame. Two weeks after that I find out that this guy, Alan, was just using me for the little money I had, and my car. I moved in with my cousin, but that wasn't going to last, because she lived with her two kids, and her boyfriend, and he was abusive. I finally started dating this guy,Tom, and he let me stay with him, which was fine for awhile. He knew I was pregnant and was okay with it. Of course he was on house arrest, so I was kind of an only option. Wow, I sure can pick winners. One night his best friend pulled a knife on me, mostly because he was drunk. The situation soon got underhand, but it was very scary. I decided then and there, that this was not the life I wanted for myself, and my unborn child. The next day I called my mom, and asked her if I could come see them. I hadn't talked to them for two months. She said I could. I called my sister after that and asked her to meet me there. So, I went home to see my parents. The visit went really well, but I didn't tell them I was pregnant yet. I went back to see them everyday, and then a week later they helped me move into an apartment with another one of my cousins, and helped me get a new car. I couldn't believe they were helping me like this. I went back to Tom's house, and told him I was leaving, and never went back. About a month after that I told my parents that I was pregnant. My dad cried, but my mom just sort of seemed stunned. The next day she bought some booties. During those seven months I got really close to my mom. She came with me to all my ob-gyn appointments, and took me shopping all the time. I finally got to know my mom. In March of '01, my parents asked me to move back in with them. I was by myself, and didn't know how to take care of a baby. I said yes, and moved in in two days. My parents finished the basement, and that's where I moved into. I was finished moving the day before I went into labor.

On April 1st, 2001 I started to feel contractions, so we called my doctor, and she said to go to the hospital just to be sure. So I went to the hospital, and they were indeed real contractions. So I started drinking water, and walking a lot to help the labor along. My mom, and my sister were with me. They were getting hungry, and wanted to go get something to eat, but didn't want to leave me alone, so they were going to go in shifts, but the nurse, Anne, said I was fine, and that they could just go. It was no big deal. So, I was reading my book, and just relaxing, thinking I was going home soon, because it was really the very beginning stages of labor, and I didn't really need to be there. Anne came in to check on me, and started fiddling with the baby heart monitor, looking for the baby's heart beat. When she couldn't find it with the monitor she tried to physically move the baby, both outside and inside. That was fun. *Sarcastic* Then she leaves the room, only to come back with six other nurses. This whole time they won't tell me what's going on. They had me sign some papers, that to this day I still don't remember what they were. Hooked me up to an iv, and had me go on my hands and knees on the bed. Then the doctor got there. He wasn't the one that I thought was going to deliver my baby, and I actually hadn't seen him in the office. But that was okay, because I didn't know what was going on. Then, with me still on my hands and knees, they wheeled me into the OR. They told me that they were going to put me to sleep. The anesthesiologist got there, gave me a shot, and told me I was going to go to sleep now. I remember thinking that I was going to be awake for the whole thing, and feel it all. The next thing I know I woke up looking at a curtain. I actually laughed at the curtain, cause it was kind of funny. But I was drugged, so that could be to blame. Then I was wheeled to my room, and all I could see was faces above me. I was glad to see it was my family. I didn't get to see my baby yet, but they told me I had a beautiful baby boy. The next day, when I was a little less drugged, my sister told me that they had to resuscitate the baby, invitro. The cord had been wrapped around his neck twice, and he couldn't breath. I had an emergency C-section, and luckily everything turned out okay. I named him Justin Tyler, and he was my April Fools baby. My family told me a month later that I had actually flatlined on the table, and the doctor had to resuscitate me too. That Dr. was my guardian angel that day, and I told him so. So Justin is three years old now, and has no ill affects from his death experience. He is one of the smartest kids I know, and I'm not just biased. But, that's not where my baby story ends.

When Justin was two I met Dan. He was a great guy, or so I thought, and he fed all the right lines. He even went so far as to show me a house he wanted to buy, and talked about the kids he wanted to have with me. Ironic? yes. Cause he got me pregnant. Of course I didn't find out I was pregnant until after he told me he cheated on me. Once again, another winner. I was afraid to tell my parents, so I didn't. I went on with daily life, as if there was nothing wrong. And yes, I started to get a little bigger around the middle, but nobody noticed, except complete strangers. You need to know that around this time there was a lot of stress in our lives. I got suspended from work because a false allegation, and my neice, who lived with my parents, was becoming a criminal. So nobody had time to notice my increasingly growing belly. And I wasn't giving any hints. I fleetingly thought of abortion, but I could never do that to a living thing. So, as quickly as the thought came in it went right back out. I had moved out of my parents house again, and was renting this little cottage. It was ideal for just Justin and me, but not for another baby. I wasn't sure what to do yet. Finally when I was about ready to pop, I had to do something. And people were starting to suspect. Every male in my family, except my father told their wives they thought I was pregnant. But the wives said no, I would have told them. My sister actually got into a fight with her husband the night before I told her because he said it. So, I told my sister, and she helped me tell my parents. They kind of took it in stride. My mom gave me a hug, and told me she loved me. My dad said, "well, okay." And that was it. A week later I went into labor. That whole time I hadn't had any doctor care, which can be very dangerous I know, but it was almost as if if I went to the doctor I was admitting I was pregnant, and I wasn't ready to do that. But I did have some doctor care. That week after I told my parents I went to the doctor, had an ultrasound, and found out I was having a girl. I kept in touch with Dan through the whole thing, even though I didn't really want to. I had another c-section Friday February 13th. This one I stayed awake for, and even got to see her right after she was born. I didn't have any names picked out, but the second time I saw her, I knew her name was Hope. So, I named her Hope Marie, and she is my Friday the 13th baby. I have really weird birthing dates. Someone said to me that I was probably going to have my next baby on Halloween or something like that, but I got my tubes tied, so no more babies for me. I have my family, and any guy that comes into it will just have to be content with what we've got.

So, that brings me to the prespective fathers. Alan isn't in Justin's life, but I don't think he deserves to be. He moved to another state when he found out I was pregnant. His loss, not ours. Dan is in and out of Hope's life, but at this point I kind of want him out. He's fought me every step of the way. Doesn't want to give me child support until after the paternity test, but he kept putting it off, all the while claiming she was in fact his. We finally got the paternity test done last weekend, but he has to pay the other half of the balance before they will give us the results, so we're still waiting for that. I thought this was really funny though. On the way out of the hospital where we got the test done, Dan runs into a friend of his, and they start talking about her kids. He was walking ahead of us. As we walked up, he pointed to Hope, and said, "This is my little girl." I thought that was really weird seeing as how he was contesting paternity. I'm very tempted to tell him to f off, I don't want his money. I still don't know what I'm going to do. I really don't like him, but his mother is in love with Hope. I guess we'll see what happens.

I know I wrote a book, so if you read it, thanks.
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Wednesday, September 22nd, 2004

Posted by:staygoldpnyboy.
Time:2:15 am.
Since I am now a single parent, I thought I'd join communites for that, since I'll need all the help I can get.

Name- Laurie
Age, 22
Child due Nov 13th

My Situation:

He (the father, travis) left last Saturday, and now he won't return my calls or anything, or scoop the cat litter, which I can't do. Up until the 6th (Monday, labor day) of September, he was saying he was excited to be a father, he was so happy and excited to see her, he wanted to be a good dad, then he changed his tune. On the sixth he said he was scared, and that he didn't know if he could do this, then on the 9th (Thursday), He said he was afraid that our relationship wouldn't last because the baby would be an added stress and we couldn't make it work, and he tried as hard as he could (which to him means working, not going on the computer so he couldn't look at porn, not going to his friends house so I knew he wasn't looking at porn and not playing video games as much as he used to) He said that he wanted to do more with his life (he's the laziest man I have met, he won't go anywhere) and that if we gave the baby up for adoption we'd have a chance at the relationship, but not with her. He packed up on the 10th (Friday, left on the 11th(Saturday) , and except for a few heated phone conversations, we haven't talked, and I don't think he will. I don't even know if he was truly excited about her. I think I scared him by saying that this could work and it would be ok, and trying to get married- He doesn't have people in his life that tell him things like that, but he really won't now. I was honestly the best thing to happen to him. I would've stuck by him through anything, and already had my fair share of disappointment in this relationship. I'm off to try to find a job (Ha, like anyone will hire me now) and to join single mothers communities.
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Sunday, August 8th, 2004

Posted by:mommy_to_nico.
Time:7:15 pm.
yard sale went great :P made over 400 dollars :) Now relaxing, thank god. Reena

~~Pictures~~

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Friday, August 6th, 2004

Subject:aaaah
Posted by:imustadmit.
Time:3:33 pm.
Mood: pensive.
not sure where to begin...
im glad i found this community and i hope i can get some support here. im 21, and single, i found out i was 3 months pregnant when i was finally getting the courage to move out of my house i shared with my then boyfriend. He never hit me or anything like that, its just a situation we both knew wasnt right and we kept holding on depsite that.

Finally I realized i wasnt ever going to leave and move on if i didnt just do it...so i did.
and a week later i found out i was pregnant!

I decided by myself to keep it no matter what. He is not really going to be around, and if he is thats all fine and dandy, but im really scared. I am 6 months now..and the dr says all is well in there. Im mainly just really afriad of doing this alone. I dont have any friends with children. not even married friends.

I am really not sure how to handle this new life. or where to even begin.
to make things a bit worse, i moved into my parents house for some support. they live about 1000 miles from where i live normally, so im feeling homesick, but i dont really feeel like i should move back on my own til after the baby pops out.
i dont know. sometimes i just want to find a job here and live here and know that i will be safe and close to my mother. But other days i realize how stupid it is. i have 1 year left of school. i had plans on living in nyc as soon as that year was up. i dont know what to do.
i know that i have to be strong but its really scary, and i dont know anyone around here where my parents live. im feeling really alone and young and uncapable.
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Saturday, July 31st, 2004

Subject:Question?
Posted by:harvey501.
Time:9:04 pm.
Mood: confused.
When you just had a baby and your trying to figure out the mom thing. did you ever have a guy say he liked you for ____ long and he really wanted to be with you? and did you think well being a mom is gonna be hard enough but you also like the guy so you date. then they start getting mad at you because you "changed" and "worry to much"?

I just got out of a short lived relationship cause I couldn't take it anymore. I still have feelings for the guy but he said I "used" to be fun to hang out with and now all I do is complaint and 'worry" too much.

all the stuff I worry about is Tristan (my 8month old son) and I making it okay. i just got my own apt on section8 and am trying to figure it all out budgeting and stuff.

and doesn't becoming a mom change you anyways chemically. I mean its not even been a year yet. doesn't it take a while for the hormones to level out?

anyways I was wondering if anyone else ever experienced this situation?
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Monday, July 5th, 2004

Subject:hey.
Posted by:harvey501.
Time:4:07 pm.
Mood: drained.
im a single mom (even though it says harvey) im 25 years old. my son tristan just turned 7 months on june 28th.

ive been single since easter of 2002. his father is um in a word insane. he wanst till late in his 21st year.. i guess thats when schizophrenia really hits the males.

anyways tristan is the best thing to happen to me. it was rough at first. i was staying with my mom she and my dad were getting a divorce and selling the houes. i found "Transitional housing" with catholic community services... it seemed nice enough until my 3rd month when i was "aproved" to stay longer. the night of my "aproval" the sent me out to weed at 8:30pm in the dark.. (we had geese shit everywhere) i told them i couldnt cause pregant women arent supposed to garden. (that weekend i went to my friends hosue to help her perepare for her wedding and she has a beautiful garden i usualy weed for her she said i couldnt cause of "tox-somthing"). wellt thats when i started seeing what the place was really about. they pressure you into thinking you cant care for the child.. they TOLD ME AT 7months (pregnatn) that i wasnt 'BODNING' with my son.. he was inside of me.. then when he was born they made me call cps on myself when he was 2 months saying "oh i know you want to parent but you may not be able to because of your adhd" it was the most rediculuse thing in the world. i had tristan 2 weeks earlier because i was stressing so badly from the place..(toximima)

luckily i was workin with WIC and dshs to bring them down. they made us give them our WIC and if we didnt have it yet or couldnt get it for some reason.. you payed them 30 bux. they took all of our food stamps. and gave it to the house wich means that not only did you not get yoru tuna if you were breastfeading but that the staff would eat your food.

it was insane. eventualy when they pulled the "you-cant-parent-because-your-adhd" card my psychitrist got into it with his lawyers. and they wished they never pulled it. i did get a cps worker but she got me out into a different shelter for a week then landed me in this great YWCA shealter. i was there for 1 month then they gave me an apartment in seattle ... we got out of the evil one when he was 4 months going on 5. we can stay here till hes 2.. its nice lil one bedrooom in the heart of down town.

i saw his father .. pulled teeth when he turned 6 months to see him at least once so i wouldnt have to lie to him when he got older. he saw him 2x i put him on my guest list unfortunatley he wasnt intreested in tristan at all and out right ignored him and kept trying to get down my pants. i gave up and kicked him out. told him he couldnt come back into the apt. but if he ever watned to see TRISTAN we could meet him somewhere.

havent seen him since.

im getting my tubes tied the 26th of this month. and my ex (not his dad) is coming up to help me with tristan. he was this AWSOME guy and i wouldnt belive that he was awsoem so eventualy i broke up with thim and i regret it every day. but what can y do.

ive been hurt so much this past year and im trying to get my feet under me and get out of thinking every one is trying to hurt me .. it jsut wasnt a good time for a relationship.

anyways thats my story.. hi and i hope to meet some other singel moms...
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Tuesday, June 22nd, 2004

Subject:New member
Posted by:tamm.
Time:3:45 pm.
Mood: bored.
Hello! My name is Tammy, I am 26 years old and a single mother of a beautiful baby girl named Skylar Rae. I have been a single mother since I was 6 months pregnant. I knew when I got pregnant that I was going to end up single. I got pregnant 2 years ago July, and when I told the father the first thing he said was "get an abortion". I ended up miscarrying that baby. 5 Months later I ended up pregnant again. Niether pregnancy was planned cuz I was on BC both times. I do not regret my baby and I never will. She is the best thing that could of ever happend to me. The sperm donor has not tried to contact me or anything since I last saw him in july of last year, when we broke up. I do not want anything from him, he did not help me when I was pregnant at all. I love being a mother, it is so special and sacred. He is missing out on so much and I doubt he cares. She is the most beautiful thing I have ever seen. Of course I know all mothers say that. I just don't know how someone can create somthing and not want anything to do with it.
I hope to meet alot of other single moms in my situation.
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